They say that what does not kill you makes you stronger. After time has passed, I am now inclined to agree. When my heart was broken years ago I felt so vulnerable. I was crying in the bathroom at work. Sobbing from a broken heart. It took me a few months to heal my broken heart. Now, I can look back on that time and realize what I did to make myself feel better and how I healed. One very important technique that I just started doing, I call open heart breathing. I share this little secret with my coaching clients and it seems to help.
He broke up with me and would not even talk to me. I was devastated. We had been in a relationship for five years and I thought it would end on good terms. I guess it did for him but not for me. I thought I would see him when I was visiting Florida but he said “NO!”. My soul sister and fellow race car driver, Kay invited me to visit her house in Lake Placid, Florida. While she went to the grocery store, I took a walk near water and a park-like area in her neighborhood.
As I was walking, I felt the crying coming on again so I let it rip. I cried as I walked; so glad that her neighbors seemed not to be outside at that time. Tears streamed down my face and I felt so alone and so sad. I did feel “weight” on my shoulders even though I was in the best shape of my life. I felt heavy and burdened with my sorrow and my pain. I felt empty or whatever was inside of me was not “good”. Usually, I have an good disposition; positive and happy. I usually smile and share my joy with other people. Not now. It seemed not any longer.
I looked up to the sky and put my arms over my head. “God”, I thought, “Please give me some good feeling – some goodness inside of me”. I pulled my arms in toward my heart as if capturing the goodness from the heavens and pouring it into my body. I felt a little better. Next, I breathed out what I imagined to be “bad stuff”; my pain, my sorrow, my tears. As I breathed out I took my hands from my heart and pushed them down, my hands palms down to the ground. Again, I reached my arms up and breathed in all of the goodness, love and joy and pulled it to my heart. And breathed out all of the bad moving my arms down. I actually felt physically and emotionally better. I felt like the good was coming back into me if only for that moment.
Then, I made a deal with God. I promised that I would take this joy and this love that I was feeling from “taking” and I would use it to heal. Then when I was healed, I would give my joy and love back into the world/heaven. I would breathe it back into the air so other people can take it to heal. That was over 10 years ago.
I have since healed and now during my walks through the forests/woods or walks on the beach you will see me with my arms out stretched up to the sky. I am giving joy, love and peace to the world as I breathe it out of my soul. It is a different method than when I was so sad and needed the good for my own healing. Now, I breathe in all of my joy and love into my heart; I feel the energy fill up my lungs with joy and love. Then, I raise my arms to the sky and breathe it out into the world. I imagine all of the good that I feel in my heart shoot out into the world. You see, I have healed. I feel love. I feel loved. I love myself and all that is. I want to share that love with those who need it, just as I needed it on my walk in Lake Placid.
I call it open heart breathing because I feel that I am opening my heart and sharing all of my good feelings, joy and love. I take my hands from my heart and fling them out over my head “shooting” all of the goodness into the air. As I touch my heart with both hands and breathe in I imagine all of my joy and goodness ballooning in my lungs and heart. I “open” my heart as I throw all of my goodness into the world in the hopes that someone will use this good energy for their healing as I did years ago.
So, please use this tool, exercise, whatever you wish to call it to help yourself, your clients or your friends. If they need open heart breathing for healing or if they wish to share their goodness with the world. Both types work. Many of my client say it works to make them happier. When we finish coaching and I ask what helped you, what do you remember that worked? Many of them say the Open-heart breathing. It seems to have a very quick, immediate effect and it lasts for a while because you can do it anywhere.
Finally, do you have techniques that you use similar to open heart breathing? Please comment so that we can continue to share the good energy and help those who need to heal.
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